{"id":1462,"date":"2022-02-27T19:11:32","date_gmt":"2022-02-28T01:11:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.journeyofaday.com\/?p=1462"},"modified":"2022-02-27T19:13:39","modified_gmt":"2022-02-28T01:13:39","slug":"valentines-special-how-needs-are-different-from-wants","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.journeyofaday.com\/?p=1462","title":{"rendered":"Valentine’s Special – How Needs are Different From Wants"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

On this Valentine’s Day, I’m pondering a timely question: have you ever wondered how needs are different from wants?\u00a0 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Listening to others, I know I get confused! \u00a0Some people may be trying to encourage me, to help me, to drive me toward being better.\u00a0 And some people just want my money!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People talk about how important it is to have wants and how to make sure needs are met.\u00a0 No wait, or is it determine what needs are to know how to fulfill your wants.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No wait, I\u2019ll get it!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Figure Out Your Why<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

(Is that why <\/em>what I need<\/span>, or what I want<\/span>?)\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Put your wants on a dream board and your needs will be met.\u00a0 Whatever you need, just want it badly enough.”\u00a0 Oh, geez.\u00a0 Enough already.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Back to the drawing board, using the dictionary:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— Needs \u2013 Those things required for our survival
— Wants \u2013 Those things that are desired that can impact our quality of life<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Okay, so I\u2019ll go check out some old school advice and get out of the noise:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When your desires are strong enough, you will appear to possess superhuman powers to achieve.<\/p>Napoleon Hill<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

In the world of decluttering, there\u2019s another view on how needs are different from wants.\u00a0 You pitch out the things you just want, and keep the things you need.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hmmmm, so how needs are different from wants could look like this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I need things so I can pursue those things I want, which inspire me to want to live, in ways that need support so I can live the life I want.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Am I making sense yet?\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How Needs are Different from Wants<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Well, on this subject, I finally came across two amazing authorities who would never admit they are.\u00a0 In the first few weeks of the Master Key Experience (MKE), Mark and Davene Januszewski do a terrific job of explaining how needs are different from wants and offer amazing tools to sort all this out.\u00a0 Better yet, using those tools can help each of us move toward the life of bliss we choose.\u00a0 Now we\u2019re talking!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Natural laws work in a perfectly natural and harmonious manner; everything seems to just happen. If you want any evidence of this fact simply compare results of your efforts in your own life, when your actions were prompted by high ideals and when you had selfish or ulterior motives in mind. You will need no further evidence.<\/p>Charles Haanel, The Master Key System<\/em> (Part 16, Section 31)<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

In the first week of the MKE, Mark and Davene both stress how important it is to answer the question, \u201cWhat do you want?\u201d\u00a0 And I discovered early on, that\u2019s a tough question to answer!\u00a0 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mark makes a great point that too many people spend their lives not answering that question, not being able to answer that question, or worse, refusing to answer it.\u00a0 To paraphrase him, \u201cThat\u2019s how so many end up living a life of quiet desperation.\u00a0 And losing the opportunity to create the life they truly want.\u201d\u00a0 Now that\u2019s one way how needs are different from wants.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation.<\/p>Henry David Thoreau<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

A Deep Restlessness<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s what professional trainer Adam Warbuton had to say on Quora about Thoreau\u2019s quote:\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

His point was that most people have a deep restlessness within that they fail to come to terms with and address throughout the course of their life, and for the most part deal with it by keeping themselves busy. Thoreau was most famous for his ability to observe nature, which requires one to be quite still, and have a deep sense of inner settlement and inner connection that allows you to be in harmony with your surroundings. By contrast he could not find that sense of settlement in the way his fellow man went about their day, thus why he wrote what he wrote – because what he observed was no matter how rich or poor you were, no matter what you did for a living, and no matter how much pleasure time you had at your disposal, most people still operated from a sense of deep unrest within themselves – and so most people he observed were simply given up on the assumption that life is as it is and were therefore simply going through the motions of living.<\/p>Adam Warbuton<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Watch Olympians<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Olympic torch<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

Want some real live inspiration on managing how needs are different from wants and getting them in line?\u00a0 Watch Olympians.\u00a0 Even at an early age, athletes seem to start with something they wanted, and as they developed skills, that want turned into a need \u2013 a need to go further, faster, higher, like oxygen for their soul.\u00a0 Even when they don\u2019t win, they keep at it, keep pushing, keep trying to be more.\u00a0 I think they are great examples of turning wants into needs as the needs become oxygen for the soul.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the MKE classes, Mark and Davene share their research on Personal Pivotal Needs (PPNs).\u00a0 There are only a handful, and in their view, these PPNs are indeed oxygen for the soul<\/em> and they define this deep longing for everyone.\u00a0 I discovered which of my needs (PPNs, not air, food and water) really touched my heart, and focused on fulfilling them.\u00a0 Then, I saw the pathway to actually get those things I wanted \u2013 my bliss, the fulfilled life of happiness I always wanted. (There\u2019s that \u201cwant\u201d thing again).\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Watching the Olympics and hearing the amazing stories of those incredible athletes is further proof for me that wanting something so badly that it becomes a need can keep you going, makes you come alive, is what puts true passion in your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Personal Pivotal Needs<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

So here\u2019s a quick rundown on the 7 PPNs.\u00a0 Hopefully, they\u2019ll help you see how needs are different from wants, and better yet, help point you toward that life you\u2019ve always wanted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n