{"id":572,"date":"2016-10-31T09:13:43","date_gmt":"2016-10-31T14:13:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/masterkey.betterdayskc.com\/?p=572"},"modified":"2016-10-31T09:27:16","modified_gmt":"2016-10-31T14:27:16","slug":"week-4-well-trained-for-failure","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.journeyofaday.com\/?p=572","title":{"rendered":"Week 4 – Well Trained for Failure"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"woman-head-thump\"Now, there’s an uncomfortable concept — I am well trained to fail?\u00a0 Let’s see.\u00a0 I procrastinate — I let myself get distracted — I give up on something, whether it’s a resolution or a plan — check, check, check.\u00a0 And how many times have I engaged in those habits?\u00a0 Oops, I WAS training myself for failure.\u00a0 These activities don’t get me to my goals.\u00a0 They don’t really increase my level of happiness.\u00a0 And they sure don’t make anyone else who’s involved happy either.<\/p>\n

Once I set a goal, I need to focus on it and get ‘er done.\u00a0 So how?\u00a0 Well, we have to retrain ourselves (our subconscious which makes all the decisions) to complete, to finish, to live the dreams we truly want.<\/p>\n

\"fire-training\"There’s a lot of training that just can’t have poor outcomes.\u00a0 The training has to be effective and relevant.\u00a0 Like training for military operations, or emergency services.\u00a0 So who’s training our brain?\u00a0 Isn’t that up to us as individuals?\u00a0 Or are we allowing others to feed our brains with information and activities that don’t really improve our lives?\u00a0 We have great coaches available who can tell us what we should do.\u00a0 Still WE have to go do it!\u00a0 Haanel writes, “modern psychology tells us that when we start something and do not complete it, or make a resolution and do not keep it, we are forming the habit of failure; absolute, ignominious failure.\u00a0 If you do not intend to do a thing, do not start; if you do start, see it through even if the heavens fall; if you make up your mind to do something, do it; let nothing, no one, interfere.” (1-12)<\/p>\n

Yikes!\u00a0 That sounds serious.\u00a0 And I don’t recall a lesson coming at me quite that hard during my formal education. So how do I turn that around?\u00a0 After all, 95% of us are engaged in procrastination about 20% of our time, according to Brandon Gaille of Gaille media.<\/p>\n

Well, I thank my lucky stars that I was fortunate to receive a paid scholarship to the Master Key Experience course where I found extremely helpful and practical coaching to create the life I really want.\u00a0 Here’s a short version of an exercise Mark J gives in the class to help us train our brains for success and adopt habits to tackle Haanel’s principle above:<\/p>\n

Think, Write, Promise and Do.\u00a0 First we must approach our daily activity, our lives, with intentional thought.\u00a0 Think about what we want and what we need to do to get it.\u00a0 Then we write.\u00a0 Writing our goals down, writing our plans down, writing a commitment in our calendar, all help integrate our desires more deeply, intensifying the commitment.\u00a0 Then we really commit to the action.\u00a0 We promise ourselves, we promise our clients, our partners, our co-workers, our families, that we will get this activity completed.\u00a0 We increase our accountability factor or build a mastermind to help.\u00a0 Then, finally, we actually do it.\u00a0 Hooray.\u00a0 Now, we can celebrate. Read back through our commitment, calendar, plan, and see how we are training ourselves to go after and get what we want.\u00a0 You’ll find cause to celebrate!\u00a0 We just did one key step.\u00a0 And now, just as in any skill, we must practice successful actions so that they sink into our subconscious and we don’t have to consciously worry about it anymore.\u00a0 Success comes automatically.\u00a0 He encourages us to think about a chore to complete each week, write it on a card, put a completion target date on it, read it every day 3 x a day, then make sure we do it!\u00a0 All because of the simple daily task that I think about and choose to do, now I’m retraining my subconscious.\u00a0 Yes, I AM successful.\u00a0 I DO complete what I set out to do.\u00a0 Simple process, based on my goals – think, write, promise and do.<\/p>\n

“If you carry out this idea, beginning with small things which you know you can control and gradually increase the effort, but never under any circumstances allowing your ‘I’ to be overruled, you will find that you can eventually control yourself, and many men and women have found to their sorrow that it is easier to control a kingdom than to control themselves,” Haanel, the Master Key System<\/em> (1-13).<\/p>\n

\"military-trainin\"Like I said, some training just can’t afford not to be effective.\u00a0 Nor can I afford for the trainer to be ineffective.\u00a0 We only have this one life to be who we are.\u00a0 So why aren’t we getting the best out of it?\u00a0 I’m going back to my trainer (me, and my subconscious) and demand better results.\u00a0 I want a life of dreams lived, not quiet desperation.\u00a0 I’m training myself for success – Think, Write, Promise, Do! And celebrate as I succeed.\u00a0 “Subby, listen up!!”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Now, there’s an uncomfortable concept — I am well trained to fail?\u00a0 Let’s see.\u00a0 I procrastinate — I let myself get distracted — I give up on something, whether it’s a resolution or a plan — check, check, check.\u00a0 And how many times have I engaged in those habits?\u00a0 Oops, I WAS training myself for …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.journeyofaday.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/572"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.journeyofaday.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.journeyofaday.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.journeyofaday.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.journeyofaday.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=572"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.journeyofaday.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/572\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.journeyofaday.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=572"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.journeyofaday.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=572"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.journeyofaday.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=572"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}