{"id":655,"date":"2017-02-01T21:24:00","date_gmt":"2017-02-02T03:24:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/masterkey.betterdayskc.com\/?p=655"},"modified":"2017-02-01T21:24:00","modified_gmt":"2017-02-02T03:24:00","slug":"week-16-low-self-confidence-in-women-over-50","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.journeyofaday.com\/?p=655","title":{"rendered":"Week 16 &#8211; Low Self-Confidence in Women Over 50?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cIt\u2019s prevalent, I tell you,\u201d a girl friend of mine told me last week, \u201cIt\u2019s amazing the number of women out there with low self-esteem. There are so many women I run across in their late 50s or older who believe they have given life all they have to offer and they don\u2019t have any more to give.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The UK\u2019s <a href=\"http:\/\/www.dailymail.co.uk\/femail\/article-2588812\/Women-feel-invisible-age-51-Confidence-plummets-hitting-50-says-new-study.html\">Daily Mail reported on a study<\/a> commissioned by herbal remedies company, A. Vogel, on self-confidence and self-esteem in older women. In their article, Daily Mail shared that \u201cmore than half of the women in the study felt \u201cleft on the shelf\u201d and were judged negatively simply because of their age.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"wp-image-657 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/www.journeyofaday.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2017\/02\/older-jeans-lady-in-leaves.jpeg\" alt=\"older jeans lady in leaves\" width=\"455\" height=\"303\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u201cOnly 15 per cent of thousands of women over 45 declared themselves as having high or very high confidence while nearly half described themselves as not very confident at all,\u201d the article said.<\/p>\n<p>Eileen Durward, health expert for the company sponsoring the study, concluded the findings, \u201cThe world can feel very geared toward appreciating younger women, leaving those of a certain age to feel neglected or less worthy. These women are not invisible and neither are their concerns,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<p>Huffington Post writer, Michelle Martin, PhD, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.huffingtonpost.com\/michelle-martin\/how-middle-aged-women-can-feel-more-visible_b_7927232.html\">published her own take on this study<\/a>. She summarized the study with the following statistics:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>75 percent felt ignored by men when they walked into a crowded room,<\/li>\n<li>50 percent felt as if they\u2019d been \u201cleft on a shelf\u201d and were judged negatively because of their age,<\/li>\n<li>60 percent felt that society was geared toward younger women,<\/li>\n<li>50 percent wished there was more focus on the plight of older women, and<\/li>\n<li>only 15 percent of the women surveyed reported feeling confident in any area of their life.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>When asked what contributed to their lack of self-confidence, most of the women cited things like graying hair, having to wear reading glasses, and a lack of appropriate fashion opportunities.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-full wp-image-658 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/www.journeyofaday.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2017\/02\/older-woman-dance-class.jpeg\" alt=\"older woman dance class\" width=\"243\" height=\"208\" \/>I agree with Dr. Martin. Self-confidence, internal feelings of worth should have nothing \u201cto do with competing with younger generations of women\u201d or judging oneself by physical characteristics, like hair color, skin quality, or how others may or may not be sexually attracted to them.<\/p>\n<p>Here are <a href=\"http:\/\/www.huffingtonpost.com\/michelle-martin\/how-middle-aged-women-can-feel-more-visible_b_7927232.html\">Dr. Martin\u2019s five suggestions<\/a> to help older women (actually it\u2019s good advice for everyone) to \u201cfeel less marginalized and more visible, vital and relevant.\u201d<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>\u201cGo on a solo journey of self-discovery.\u201d My personal journey has been this amazing Master Key Experience. Mark and Davene Januszewski have designed an unbeatable program to help you start \u2026 and finish \u2026 your true heroine\u2019s journey. You can browse through my other blog posts to see what treasures await. For example, one of the concepts from this week\u2019s lessons (Part Sixteen) of Haanel\u2019s Master Key System, \u201cIf you wish to bring about the realization of any desire, form a mental picture of success in your mind, by consciously visualizing your desire; in this way you will be compelling success, you will be externalizing it in your life by scientific methods.\u201d (16-32) Older women, like me, can create their own image of their future selves, make that vision confidence, vital, and successful. Strong visualizations like that can\u2019t help but become reality.<\/li>\n<li>\u201cRenegotiate your self-esteem.\u201d Dr. Martin recommends you reconsider what you base your self-esteem on. \u201cConsider valuing yourself for intrinsic traits, such as your resilience and your creativity, rather than superficial traits. More insight from Haanel on this is in 16-34. \u201cFeeling is the very fountain head of power, why the emotions so easily overcome the intellect, and why we must put feeling into our thought, if we wish results. Thought and feeling is the irresistible combination.\u201d Thinking of yourself in terms of your value and then adding the feelings of love and acceptance of yourself \u2013 there\u2019s a powerful combination!<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" wp-image-659 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/www.journeyofaday.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2017\/02\/red-hat-society.jpeg\" alt=\"red hat society\" width=\"362\" height=\"241\" \/><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>\u201cChallenge your existing belief systems.\u201d \u201cDevelop new standards and practices that feel right for you and your \u2026 lifestyle,\u201d Dr. Martin writes. Mark and Davene share lots of new scientific research, and examples to help us challenge our beliefs by helping us see how concepts and tools to rebuild your life are alive and well \u2026 and most importantly, how it actually works on a personal level.<\/li>\n<li>\u201cFind your voice.\u201d Share your wisdom. Write a book. Get involved in things that matter. Speak up and make a difference. Another gift I got from the Master Key Experience was coaching and encouragement to blog. Hey, hopefully you\u2019re enjoying what I have to say right now!<\/li>\n<li>\u201cPractice acceptance.\u201d According to Dr. Martin, it\u2019s important to not only accept others and give them room to be who they choose to be, but to accept ourselves and our lives as we are, as they are. Forgive yourself for your self-pity, for your self-degradation, then accept who you are and move on to the new you that you choose to be. Haanel, (16-37) \u201cTry to bring yourself to a realization of the important fact that harmony and happiness are states of consciousness and do not depend upon the possession of things.\u201d So wherever life has lead us, this is where we are. We still have the power to choose \u2013 what we want from life, what we want to give to life, and where we want to lead our lives for its duration. Choose and go for it!<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>And if you need some help and encouragement to stop living a life of desperation and live the life you want, join me and my friends in this marvelous heroine\u2019s journey. Please leave your email address in the box on the right and I\u2019ll make sure you\u2019re contacted about a scholarship the next time the class opens. Meanwhile, be confident, be strong, be YOU!<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Bruno Mars - Just The Way You Are (Official Music Video)\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/LjhCEhWiKXk?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cIt\u2019s prevalent, I tell you,\u201d a girl friend of mine told me last week, \u201cIt\u2019s amazing the number of women out there with low self-esteem. 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